Destiny and Fate
Do you believe there is, somewhere out there, a true soul mate for each and every person? Does everything happen for a reason?
I have always believed the people in your life fall into two categories: phases and parts. Both categories are equally important and self-explanitory. But sometime hard to distinguish. It seems too often those who are just phases in our life are those same people we want to be a part of our life and vice versa.
Recently, I have decided nothing is actually a part of your life. Nothing is forever. If something is a part of your life, that something/someone would be with you forever. Nah, doesn't seem to happen that way. The people we love can't be with us forever.
Back to the topic at hand...Should we search for our sole mate, should he/she exsist, or if it is destiny, will we meet that person without the search? Is a sole mate supposed to be a mate in the traditional sense, i.e. spouse, boyfriend, etc. Or can this person just be a best friend (gender unspecific?)
posted by Jill at
11:48 AM
4 Comments:
Quite a follow up post to the Monster Truck Rally! I have no idea if we should be active seekers or passive waiters. Honestly, does it matter? Can anyone become part of our life? We start our life alone and leave it that way. Perhaps the most we can hope for is someone to walk beside us on the path and keep us company for a short while, until their own path diverges.
I agree about the path thing. But you kinda hit the nail on the head with the other. Should we hope for someone else to keep us company? We do we instintively desire someone else? (No scientific answers,please Rainbow) Let me throw this idea into the ring: Could the number single parents (growing every day) actually be effecting society in an evolutionary kind of way? Changing the people think in this sense? I see obvious changes transpire around me all the time, simple inventions, products/ideas that become a way of life.
Evolution, simply put, is how a species adapts to changes in its environment over time. Sometimes evolution happens slowly, but other times a major change in the environment can bring about a rapid evolutionary change. I think what may be the cause of so many single parents is the liberation of the female half of the species. Over the past 50 yrs, opportunities for women have increased dramatically. Women have choices and aren't dependent on men for their economic well being. As a result, women are demanding better relationships and better marriages because they're in a position to demand it. If things don't work out, they can leave because they are self sufficient.
In a nutshell, women have evolved dramatically and men are just now catching up.
Okay, I'm all about "word" to the single mother, but single-parented households, both Dad and Mom type single, is growing. I know a particular relationship where the parents both refer to themselves as single parents because they don't have help from a live-in significant other. Yes, they both take care of the child, just not at the same time.
I don't think this is a gender specific topic. While most men, in my opinion, would prefer to live a single lifestyle, without any strings attached, some, though not as many as women, do desire that special someone. Again, could this be a theory of evolution of sorts. Where men had been raised in households just like women, learning by suggestions from their parents, each has a certain role to play. Who broke the mold first. Did a woman fix the car, or take out the trash; or did the man of the house do his own ironing? Something changed, whether a quick or slow process. Kind of a "which came first" issue. What's absolute? Someone decided, "This shit ain't for me." I would rather be alone. Hmmm... not a bad idea.
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